tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8912958848312625029.post4437891804190853955..comments2023-11-22T00:25:45.685-07:00Comments on Heather in the Making: A Little More Intense than Sibling RivalryHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04653012877754804144noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8912958848312625029.post-61893681637902883362008-06-20T14:50:00.000-06:002008-06-20T14:50:00.000-06:00You are handling this so well. You're a great...You are handling this so well. You're a great mom! I have no words of wisdom, just wanted to say I read your post and you're doing great.<br><br>Also, (and I am in NO WAY comparing this story to yours or trivializing what happened), but, my son exhibited a flash of out of the blue cruel violence one afternoon that left me shaken. He picked up a huge rock and struggled with it over to where our neighbor's cat was sunny and was about to drop it on the animal's head when I got there. I couldn't believe it. Just pure meanness. It might have killed the cat. I have never been so stunned. He's normally a very sweet boy. I don't if I have a point except that I don't think it's abnormal for kids to experiment with such behavior.anymommyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17870033179328734404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8912958848312625029.post-83048822160927953322008-06-15T12:30:00.000-06:002008-06-15T12:30:00.000-06:00I'm so sorry. I know how upset I would be if ...I'm so sorry. I know how upset I would be if my kids were involved in perpetrating that type of a situation. When I add the need to protect my other child all I can say is that you're handling this much more gracefully than I would.<br><br>I'm sorry that the other mother is enabling her son's bad behavior. Letting it go is probably the better decision, but I can understand wanting to rage at her until she understands.<br><br>(((((hugs)))))Cherylhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16413238854052092954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8912958848312625029.post-9809760828467631382008-06-13T21:40:00.000-06:002008-06-13T21:40:00.000-06:00Oh my God, Heather, I can't even imagine.I thi...Oh my God, Heather, I can't even imagine.<br><br>I think the way you are handling the situation is perfect, though.<br><br>Since words from you about the other mom's "boys will be boys attitude" will probably fall on deaf ears and since the attack occurred at church, do you think that a word to your pastor about it might do good? The other mom seems to need a refresher on Christ's view of violence.lizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8912958848312625029.post-84356989108193091472008-06-13T18:20:00.000-06:002008-06-13T18:20:00.000-06:00I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how you felt...I'm so sorry. I can only imagine how you felt when you saw that, it makes me hurt just to think of it. It sounds like you're dealing with it well. <br>My son has always argued and picked at his younger sister, and although it's never been to that level, he's done things to her that upset me so much! It's like a knife to the heart when one of your children intentionally hurts the other.DysFUNctional Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02996772324484385959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8912958848312625029.post-45741207855046529982008-06-13T16:50:00.000-06:002008-06-13T16:50:00.000-06:00Wow. I think you handled it correctly too. Even ...Wow. I think you handled it correctly too. Even if she was being bossy (and I'm not saying she was) that does not justify violent behavior and that mother gave you a dumb ass response! "Boys will be boys" is when boys duke it out with each other and get it out of their system, NOT two boys beat up a little girl. <br><br>Friend, I would be enraged too, and I think "not going there" with the other mother AT THIS TIME is a good idea. You're too emotional and need to be calm. I do think that eventually you'll need to have that talk just so you don't have bad feelings between you. It's really hard to make peace and forgive when you're seeing red. Been there. :)<br><br>I get the mother bear instinct...it's both a gift and a curse. lol You're a good mom Heather. You're teaching Punkinhead what is and isn't o.k.and he WILL learn. You're loving on LMNOB and making sure she knows that's not o.k. to be treated like that. As for Charlie Brown, I'm glad you had the talk about getting on the same page. You're not a single parent and shouldn't be treated as such. I know you guys will work it out. I'll be praying for you friend! <br><br>One more thing...I feel your pain. I wonder if we'll ever see the world through glasses not fogged up by the history of violence we ourselves have lived through. Extra sensitivity is normal for you and me.Nikihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11939695756973039908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8912958848312625029.post-85804913502142803392008-06-13T15:58:00.000-06:002008-06-13T15:58:00.000-06:00This is so out of my league Heather. I am so sorry...This is so out of my league Heather. I am so sorry this has happened. I'm sick for you. Big Big Hugs. I'm thinking of you ALL at this time.*Becky*http://www.blogger.com/profile/08014182459282982937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8912958848312625029.post-18102209712096146192008-06-13T15:10:00.000-06:002008-06-13T15:10:00.000-06:00You are handling the situation appropriately. I a...You are handling the situation appropriately. I am sickened by this as if it were my own children. That is not boys being boys and they should never think it's "what we do" as a male. I'm sorry you dealt with this!!The Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14013214017240987993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8912958848312625029.post-84837076540291855642008-06-13T14:47:00.000-06:002008-06-13T14:47:00.000-06:00Oh Heather, I'm so sorry. For what it's wo...Oh Heather, I'm so sorry. For what it's worth, it sounds like you're doing an amazing job of handling the situation. Every ounce of my being wants to go scream at that punk's mother that she's raising a misogynist brat, but I think it would fall on deaf ears. <br><br>Good for you for protecting your daughter, and for teaching your son that it's NOT o.k., even though other boys aren't raised as well. I hope I'd be 1/2 the mom that you are if I ever had kids.Princess in Galosheshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08815709655445815674noreply@blogger.com