Friday, February 22, 2008

Adding Injury to Insult

Yes I am aware that the phrase is usually insult to injury, but there is a reason for my unconventional usage.

Yesterday I was feeling guilty about the dental issues. I found out, however, that this is relatively common and not blameworthy - yay!

When I went to pick up LMNOB at school for her OT appt., there was a note.

From Ms. M.

With the word incident in it.


Well over the next 3 1/2 hours, I pulled every trick out of the parenting bag I could think of to get to the bottom of it.

She hit a boy, (slapped him right across the face, per an astonished Ms. M) I determined after about an hour. A boy who is a fairly good friend of hers.

Getting to why was the hard part.

When I had to leave for a meeting and Charlie Brown impressed it upon her that for real they were not going to swim lessons if she did not tell, she finally mustered up the wherewithal to explain what had happened.

Seems this boy and another had been teasing her about her recent friendship that had developed between LMNOB and another boy. These boys had been doing "LMNOB LOVES NEW BOY," and that mortified her. Apparently this has been going on for days. She said she's asked them to stop before, but they wouldn't.

So she hit him.

I can understand her frustrations, but crap! she HIT another child.

And then refused to talk about it with Ms. M AND with us.

This is not the first such time that communication has proved to be difficult - and damn if it isn't getting a bit tiresome.

I love her. I love her like nothing else - but I worry for her because of things like this.

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  1. I have to say... GOOD FOR HER!! Even tho I am sure that is not ok to say... but goodness if the boy wouldn't stop... I would have hit him too! LOL!!! But I understand the issue... *hugs*

  2. Awww, what a tough thing to try to figure out how to deal with as a parent.

  3. I wouldn't worry if I were you.

    I can't believe I'm saying this but...

    better that she defended herself rather than let herself get picked on. Once she is seen as an easy target then all bets are off. At least now her classmates know that she is no shrinking violet.

    Just trying to see the silver lining of the situation, ya know.

  4. Don't worry too much. Hitting's not the answer, but she's not doing it regularly for no reason. It sounds like she was pretty heavily provoked on this one occassion.